Achievement & Happiness Are Different Things – Here's Why Most People Don’t Realize It..
Introduction
In our pursuit of success, it's easy to believe that once we reach a certain milestone, happiness will follow. We’ve been conditioned to think that happiness is the reward for achieving our goals. But what if that’s not true? What if, despite achieving everything we set out to, happiness remains elusive?
This paradox is something that Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world’s leading executive coaches, has seen countless times. Through his decades of experience coaching top CEOs, athletes, and leaders, Goldsmith discovered a crucial truth: achievement and happiness are not the same thing. In fact, they are often completely independent variables.
The Trap of Conditional Happiness
Many people believe, "Once I achieve this, then I'll be happy." But this mindset sets you up for perpetual dissatisfaction. Goldsmith calls this the “Great Western Disease” — the constant thinking that happiness is always one achievement away. The problem is that once you reach that goal, a new one takes its place, and happiness continues to evade you.
Consider the story of Michael Phelps, the most decorated Olympian of all time. After winning his 25th gold medal, instead of feeling fulfilled, Phelps struggled with depression. His achievements, while remarkable, didn’t bring him the happiness he expected. This is a prime example of how external accomplishments, no matter how impressive, do not guarantee internal contentment.
Why Achievement Alone Won’t Make You Happy
Goldsmith often points out that our modern culture glorifies success and achievement, yet it often neglects the importance of inner peace and happiness. The misconception that more success will lead to more happiness is deeply ingrained in our minds. But the truth is, the more we chase after success, the more elusive happiness becomes.
This happens because we often tie our self-worth and identity to our achievements. When our happiness is contingent on external validation, we become vulnerable to disappointment and disillusionment. No matter how much we achieve, it’s never enough to fill the void that can only be satisfied by internal fulfillment.
Separating Achievement from Happiness
The key to finding true happiness lies in understanding that achievement and happiness are separate pursuits. Achievement is about external success — winning awards, getting promotions, hitting sales targets. Happiness, on the other hand, is an internal state that comes from how we perceive our lives, our relationships, and our self-worth.
Goldsmith advises that instead of linking happiness to outcomes, we should focus on the process. Find joy in the daily actions and the small victories. Learn to appreciate the journey rather than just the destination. This shift in mindset can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life.
Practical Steps to Cultivate Happiness Independent of Achievement
Practice Daily Gratitude: Start and end each day by reflecting on what you’re grateful for. This practice shifts your focus from what you lack to what you already have, fostering a sense of contentment.
Set Process-Oriented Goals: Instead of only setting goals based on outcomes, set goals that focus on the process. For example, rather than just aiming to lose weight, set a goal to enjoy your daily workout. This keeps you engaged and motivated, regardless of the end result.
Mindful Living: Practice mindfulness to stay present and enjoy the moment. This helps you savor the journey and reduces the tendency to rush towards the next achievement.
Build Meaningful Connections: Happiness is deeply connected to our relationships. Invest time in nurturing relationships that bring joy and fulfillment, rather than just networking for professional gain.
Self-Reflection: Regularly ask yourself, "Did I do my best to be happy today?" This simple question, suggested by Goldsmith, can be a powerful tool to keep happiness at the forefront of your mind.
Conclusion: Redefining Success
True success is not just about what you achieve, but also about how you feel along the way. By detaching happiness from achievement, you open yourself up to a more fulfilling life where both success and happiness coexist. Remember, you can achieve great things and be happy, but you must cultivate happiness independently of your achievements.
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